Jennifer Lopez Says You "Should Have a Party" After a Breakup

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Jennifer Lopez isn't afraid to get loud about her breakups.

The Hustlers star—who has shared notable romances over the years, including her marriage to Ben Affleck from 2022 to 2024 after previously ending their first engagement 20 years earlier—explained her ethos when it comes to bouncing back following the end of a relationship.

"Breakups are not a failure. I honestly feel like it’s a launchpad into your next best self. We should have a party when we break up!" Lopez told Kareem Rahma on a June 30 episode of Subway Takes. "People should say, 'You broke up? Congratulations,' because one, you made a decision. Two, it was probably the best thing for everybody."

The "All I Had" singer doubled down on her optimistic viewpoint, adding, "If you're the one who's being heartbroken, you're the winner. Because if you go around your life and you're breaking hearts, let's say, you're a loser," though Lopez did concede, "I've been on both sides. We all do that. But if you're that person, you're never learning anything."

And the Super Bowl performer pinpointed why she feels calling it quits can ultimately lead to positive change.

"I just feel like the biggest growth spurts I’ve had emotionally, mentally, psychologically have always come from a heartbreak," Lopez explained. "And that’s not just in romantic relationships, that’s in work heartbreaks, all of it."

"It’s the only time you dig. You’re like, ‘What the f--k happened? How do I do this? Why do I keep doing this? Or why didn’t that happen? What could I have done better?'" Lopez shared of her past thought process amid a breakup. "You change yourself completely."

As for what the Maid in Manhattan actress—who was also previously married to Ojani Noa, Cris Judd and Marc Anthony, with whom she shares 18-year-old twins Max and Emme, in addition to being engaged to Alex Rodriguez—looks for in a potential partner?

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"I don't discriminate. I like skinny guys. I like a chunk around the middle," Lopez admitted. "I like beards, I like clean shaven, it doesn't matter. It's the person inside."

And the dancer's refusal to be broken by heartbreak has paid off. After all, she was able to pose next to Affleck on a red carpet nine months after settling their divorce while promoting their movie musical Kiss of the Spider Woman in October 2025.

Still, J.Lo told Howard Stern days later she knows how to draw a boundary with her exes. As she put it, "Once I’m done, you’re dead to me."

To relive Bennifer's highs and lows, look no further.

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